So, yesterday started bright and early (too early for my liking since I had had only about 3.5-4 hours of sleep)… we were heading up north for the wedding of AS. Now, AS and I have a little bit of history, and he may not necessarily be my favouritest person in the world; let me tell you the whole story….
In 1998, when I moved over from Dubai, U.A.E to Birmingham, UK, I moved in with my Mom’s sister while I attended school and then university in Brum. At the same time, AS moved in with us as well – AS is my uncle’s (said aunts husband) nephew. AS was a couple of years younger than me, and was starting an important 2 years of schooling life (GCSE) – kinda same as me (A-levels).
AS is one of those guys who very easily gets influenced by friends; he consistently got into trouble at school and outside, and as smart as he was, never gave 2 hoots about school. All he cared about was his friends, and flashy gear. AS was a pretty screwed up kid, and there were reasons for it – his mother (my uncles sister) divorced her husband and married someone out of religion, which caused a lot of friction in the family. Turns out – she’s divorced that guy too. Part of AS getting screwed up is the role of his mother; you have to be SOME person when you let your 15/16 year old daughter have a live in 21 year old “boyfriend”. Whatever you say – that’s just WRONG!
AS’s father is a good friend of mine. I met him randomly a long time ago, and we kinda kept in touch and eventually because good friends. Did I mention – most of my best friends are older than me? I think MalizOMG may be the only youngest best buddy… maybe one or two others 
In the 2.5 years which AS and I spent in the same household, I was badly affected by his actions. His actions were never directed at me, but his actions resulted in curfews and bans in the house which had to apply to both of us (so that the situation was fair). There were times, when I tried to help him out (or so I thought) by throwing away his hidden cigarette packets, but ofcourse, you can’t teach an old dog new tricks.
As the years rolled on, AS was no longer part of the picture. He skipped education, got into trouble with the law, and I guess learned the hard way that life is more than a bitch – it is cruel, sadistic, and harsh if you don’t approach it the right way. At the same time, I got closer to his dad, and for a certain period of time worked for him doing market research for his business. I also get on very very well with AS’s step mom – she is a genuinely nice person.
So, when I found out a few weeks ago that AS was getting married, I was kinda happy for him, but knowing his family situation (his mom’s side and dad – they umm… hate each other) I was hoping that I wouldn’t have to attend the wedding – it would be just awkward (I get on well with both sides *DOH*). I also was thinking of the past; I’m not one to hold on to grudges, but AS’s actions affected me a lot as I grew up, and there was always some negative feeling towards him. However, his dad and step mom insisted that I attend, and I like them too much as people to have avoided the proceedings.
The wedding itself went well, smoothly, and both parties with issues stayed in their corners and enjoyed the wedding in their own right. I saw AS for the first time since 2003-2004, and it was nice to hear something very unexpected from him – he told me “I’m so glad you made it”. I hope he meant it sincerely.
I guess sometimes, taking that step up in life changes a person, and I hope the new responsibility does bring in the change not only in him, but also within the people around him. I don’t think AS’s families can find a middle ground in their divided situation (too many egos involved), but I hope for the sake of the newly married couple they hold back their differences and let them live a new and happy life.
sounds like quite a trip!
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woah, drama.
I love a good drama story but when it’s my own-ughh.
People change and it’s mature of you to put everything behind you and go to his wedding.
I truly hope it works out for him and his wife.I could be wrong [I don't mind being proven wrong,so correct me] but often the parents’ estrangement leaves the child resenting social norms and just rebelling against everything.Shame you got caught in the crossfire.
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I LOVE going to weddings!
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